In last month\u2019s PMI June 2024 newsletter, I explained why we haven\u2019t been able to achieve the success we know we are capable of in our adult years. I had a big response from golfers who related their lives to this article. This month I would like to explain further why childhood programming is still controlling your lack of success, and the steps to change what is not working for you.<\/p>\n
The most purchased CD I produced is \u201dFearless Golf\u201d<\/em>\u00a0which indicates to me that golfers have fears of unworthiness playing this game when it should be fun. When you are born there are only two fears that are innate and hardwired in your brain to keep you safe. They are the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. Any other fear you have created as real and strengthened every time you think of it. Whenever you are triggered, angered or feel unworthy, these reactions are signals, accurate mirrors attempting to point out what you are in denial about believing. Choose to see these situations as wake-up calls inviting you to look within yourself.<\/p>\n When you were told in your formative years that you weren\u2019t good enough, it didn\u2019t feel good. So, you covered it up or repressed it so you wouldn\u2019t feel like that again. That is the core issue that is still running in your subconscious mind. On the golf course it surfaces as the feeling of fear of not being able to accomplish what you desire. To achieve success, you need to get to the core issue when this feeling of unworthiness comes up.<\/p>\n As a child no one listened to you. And they did things to you that you may not have had control over. As a little child you developed strategies so you could be accepted. You may be an adult now and still working from that survival imprint that will come through and surface into your physical performance.<\/p>\n Your mindset is your way of thinking how you view yourself and your golf game and life. Your mindset can also create self-imposed limitations within your own belief system. Are you still thinking with the beliefs instilled in your childhood? The inner child is the part of your mind that stores all emotional experiences from childhood.<\/p>\n The Inner Child is the part of you that holds your memories, that feels your feelings. Without your awareness it may be calling the shots in your decision-making. Working with this part of yourself is a way of examining the source of your choices and evaluating whether they are coming from outdated, unexamined beliefs that are not delivering the best quality of life for you. You can now replace those old self-sabotaging beliefs with new self-affirming beliefs.<\/p>\n Thinking vs. Feeling<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n The difference is between thinking and feeling. Golf is an inner game. It is an inner search for Self. Golf will teach you who you are through your feelings. That is where the inspiration is \u2013 in your heart. It is the driving force to discover loving yourself enough to enjoy every shot and every opportunity to create that wonderful feeling. You have had this power all along, but you listened to another way and were distracted from your inner knowing.<\/p>\n What is keeping you from achieving that blissful feeling? Somewhere along the way of learning to play golf, you were distracted from the happy, fun emotions that made you feel good. They were replaced with thoughts of what to do, how to do it, and fears of not obtaining what you want. Your mental ego took over and your mind became centered on constantly learning all the mechanics of the swing in the hope that a perfect swing would give you success. Instead, you became anxious about your scores and fearful of the golf course. Because of our beliefs we are unaware of the hidden beliefs we have been thinking for 40-50 years that are controlling us.<\/p>\n What do we need to do to change this old childhood programming?<\/p>\n Steps to remove negative limiting core beliefs<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n To forgive is to let go<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n Forgiveness is about the feeling<\/strong> in your process for things to be different. Forgiveness is how to remove the feeling of low self-worth or powerlessness. That is an old picture of your life, but for some reason it is still in your unconscious. Like your computer, it will keep in running until you delete it and change the programming. First, you must let the unworthiness belief go to give you a clean space to put in a new self-affirming program. Once you have forgiven yourself, you must forgive everybody else who wanted you to be that way. Don\u2019t let them have your power anymore. And don\u2019t give the situation your power. It\u2019s all your own creative power.<\/p>\n Know that whatever feelings you produce are created by you from your experiences. What produced the feeling? Is it yours? Or is it something you believe that is constantly promoted by society. Is competition to be the best feeding your ego or is it false programming to prove to the outer world that you are something you are not. Anytime you can think in terms of not being, you are feeding the ego as a defense mechanism to protect yourself. The child has to be taught to cover up their feelings of joy, self-worth, and being their true self to adapt to the rules laid down by society and the authority figures in their life Is there any difference between a mother yelling at her child in a grocery store to stop crying (because she is embarrassed) or you getting angry at yourself for missing a shot. In either case, the basic needs for love are not met.<\/p>\n To be successful at golf and life you need to have your mind, body and spirit in balance. When you are in the zone, that is what is occurring. You have allowed your mind energy to move into a higher state of energy known as the heart\u2019s love energy. Love energy produces the euphoric feeling of what we call the zone state of being. What keeps you from being in this state is not<\/strong> allowing your mind to let go of all the rules and programming that have conditioned your behavior up to this point. Allow yourself to feel. Let go of the competitive need to win and just enjoy the experience. We all know we play at our peak performance level when we are in the zone state. Why keep yourself from this enjoyment?<\/p>\n Trust Your Intuition<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n Intuition is a feeling that comes from your heart when you know <\/strong>the answer without conscious reasoning. It is the sudden alignment of neural pathways. It is what you feel or sense in your gut. Intuition is when you are guided by a feeling instead of overthinking or overanalyzing. Trust and believing in your intuition, your gut sense, will transform your game.<\/p>\n You were born with intuition. You don\u2019t have to think about how you know, you just know. It is estimated that 90 percent of percent of people overthink their decisions. Think of what that means for all the decisions you are making during a round of golf. Using your intuition can keep you from making all kinds of mental errors.<\/p>\n You have the ability to sense\/feel your intuitive knowing before consciously thinking. Trusting your intuition is one of the most important things you can do while playing the game of golf.<\/p>\n Make peace with yourself. Use your intuition to trust yourself as all different aspects of the game change. Everything is simplified into now, and now is the only thing we need to trust.<\/p>\n Play \u201cin the zone\u201d with Joan<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n Entrain Your Heart & Mind for Peak Performances<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/em><\/strong>One-on-one coaching:<\/u> Call +1-828.707.5478, or contact Joan by email at pmi4@bellsouth.net<\/a> for a free consultation to learn about mental golf in person, or worldwide by phone. Learn what is missing in your game so you can achieve your peak performances.<\/p>\n Please share this monthly mental instruction newsletter if it has been helpful to you. Forward it to your friends so they can have more fun playing the game of golf while lowering their scores. Link to www.pmi4.com<\/a> to download previous PMI mental golf newsletters from 1999-2024 on the Archived Newsletter page https:\/\/cutt.ly\/kwMY2jXt<\/a> <\/u>\u00a0<\/u><\/p>\n To train your brain for improving and trusting your short game, listen to the Positive Mental Imagery self-empowering guided imagery self-hypnosis CDs\/MP3s in the privacy of your own home. Eight different empowerment audios are available at\u00a0www.pmi4.com\/cart<\/a><\/p>\n To unsubscribe or change info:<\/u>\u00a0 If you no longer want to receive this newsletter, or if you want to change the address to which it is sent, please reply with \u201cunsubscribe\u201d or the details to \u201cchange subscription\u201d to pmi4@bellsouth.net<\/a><\/p>\n \u201cTHE HEART OF GOLF, <\/strong>Access Your Supreme Intelligence for Peak Performances<\/em><\/strong>\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/span> explores and explains negative emotions such as fear and performance anxiety, the four Cs of mind blockage, the four progressive stages of learning the supreme intelligence of the heart, and the way to access the zone in competition. It is a player\u2019s guide for developing your true inner self by returning to the joy and love of self instead of seeking praise and rewards from the outside world. This guidebook for transforming your life and golf game is available at https:\/\/amzn.to\/3jEMVuv<\/a>\u00a0\u00a0 All royalties will be donated to junior golf.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" In last month\u2019s PMI June 2024 newsletter, I explained why we haven\u2019t been able to achieve the success we know we are capable of in our adult years. I had a big response from golfers who related their lives to … Continue reading \n