Dreaming about what you want to accomplish in golf will not bring it about. A dream is a manifestation of what your fondest desires are. To make your dreams happen, you need to let go of the fears that hold you back from accomplishing them. When you see only your shortcomings, you will always come up short. No matter what is happening, your attitude toward it is always your choice.
Thinking about things that do not support your dream is a waste of time and effort. Begin to form the right state of mind by deciding which thoughts and emotions will help you to achieve it. You can use visual images, positive self-talk, affirmations, and empowering emotions to enhance your self-image to make your dreams a reality.
The one thing that keeps you from the results you desire is FEAR. We each have our own fears because our own minds create these fears. Fear of failure, fear of rejection, or the fear of not being good enough are not real. They are imagined as a protection against what might happen. When you are fearful, or worrying, you are limiting yourself from achieving your dreams and goals.
Fear is a powerful feeling and is the opposite of the most powerful feeling, love. The mindset that you have on the golf course determines not only the enjoyment you will have, but also the success you will achieve. Everything in the universe is connected by love. We are disconnected by fear.
Fear can be overcome when you face it fearlessly. When you deal with it, you can conquer it and it won’t last forever. When you play fearless golf, there is no anxiety. Never let fear stop you from following your dreams. Instead of letting it hold you back, use it as motivation to achieve your goals.
Additional information about conquering your fears can be found at www.pmi4.com, Archived Newsletters: May 2009, Do You Have a Fear of Success or a Fear of Failure?, October 2008, Change Your Fears into Control, September 2007, Fear or Fun?, and November 2003, Fearless Golf.
Everything you need is within you
You can change your attitude/mindset and your emotions in an instant. It requires freeing yourself from the mental blocks of negativity of not being good enough. When you keep replaying past mistakes and self-judgments, your energy is at a low level. Energize yourself with a positive outlook, love, and gratitude for being able to play the game.
The determining factor for change is about aligning your choices so that your decisions honor what you truly desire and are not reinforcing what you don’t want. I suggest that if you are taking lessons from a golf pro that you ask to be shown what you are doing correctly, not what you are doing wrong. In every moment there is an opportunity for choice. Choose to reinforce what works.
You need to understand where fear comes from so that you can release it. You need to look within your feelings so that you will know what is real for you and what is not real for you. You need to remember who you are so that you can give up the ego’s fear-based control over your life and your game and return to your true self.
Create a mindset for having fun
Golf is a game you can play as a means of relaxation, socialization, and a source of enriching your spirit. When you play for fun, you have the right balance of seriousness and relaxation. Dr. Bernie Siegel, the noted Yale surgeon and holistic author of 12 books, says that fun is something that causes time to stand still (living in the moment). That happens when you have having so much fun you want your golf game to go on forever.
When you see golf as a competition, your attitude changes, you want to win and are driven by the need to perform and score well. Your self-esteem is then at risk every time you “play”. If the only way to define success is by winning, then your self-esteem is always at risk. This is very taxing on you because you are constantly on an emotional roller coaster and there isn’t any harmony and balance within.
The reality is that there is only one winner (individual or team) and everyone else loses. So, you must realize that the goal isn’t to win. It is to do the best you can during the round so you will have enjoyed it. I sincerely believe that the best way to do that is by letting go of the judgments, expectations, worries and thoughts you have about yourself. Play the game not as a job or something in which you must excel. If you are playing with better players, it may not be possible to win. If you give it your best effort, you are a winner because you have accomplished your purpose of having fun.
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Entrain Your Heart & Mind for Peak Performances
To train your brain for a mindset to play your best golf, listen to Positive Mental Imagery self-hypnosis guided imagery CDs in the privacy of your own home. Eight different golf enhancing CDs including “Fearless Golf” are available at www.pmi4.com/cart
Listening daily will change the energy that is needed to believe in yourself, trust your golf game, and have confidence in knowing what you can do.
If you lack confidence, control, concentration, and/or consistency on the golf course, email Joan at email@example.com for a complimentary 15-minute phone consultation about developing a new strategy. Learn what is missing in your golf game so you can achieve the success you desire.
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