Do you really believe you deserve to win?
On a deep level of feeling, most golfers believe that they don’t deserve to be the winner. They will point to golfers who are better than they are and to the weaknesses in their own games. To play at your best, you need to believe in yourself and in your golf abilities. Believing in yourself is all about focusing on your strengths and on what you do well instead of focusing on what isn’t working.
Self-Worth is the core of our Self. It is a sense of how we view our worthiness and value as human beings. Lacking Self-Worth is like being a tree without roots. When you have healthy self-worth, you have a positive attitude and feel comfortable being yourself.
Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself or the opinion you have about yourself. In a pressure situation on the golf course anyone can find it hard to believe in themselves. When you have healthy self-esteem, you have a positive attitude towards the things you want to achieve.
Self-esteem is not about your ability. You can have good golf abilities but still have low self-esteem.
When you have a high level of self-esteem, you will be confident, motivated, happy and have a positive attitude to succeed.
Low self-esteem will keep you from taking chances. Low self-esteem is reinforced by thinking negatively, criticizing your performance, or by listening to others who criticize you.
Confidence comes from within. If you have self-worth and are confident, you will have the mental strength to face new challenges. Confidence is enhanced by self-appreciation. On the golf course everything is new. Every day the golf course and every shot is a new experience.
How to develop self-esteem to win
- Don’t compare yourself to others. Limit your competition to playing the golf course the best you can. Don’t compare your performance or abilities to someone else’s. Play your own game by sticking to your own strategy for playing and for overcoming challenges at your own pace. Your personal satisfaction and fulfillment are much more important than what others are thinking or saying or doing.
- Use positive self-talk. Always talk to yourself as if you are your best friend. Champions decide what they will feel or think during competition. Replace the negative thoughts in your head with positive healthy affirming thoughts about your worth.
- Don’t analyze your performance until it is over. Adding up your score or projecting the outcome will put you on an emotional roller coaster when your expectations aren’t met.
- Use good body language. Walk and stand as if you are confident. You will feel more confident and look more confident to your playing partners.
- Let go of short-term memory. Release thoughts and emotions of missed shots immediately. Stay in the present by giving every shot your total undivided attention and intention. Don’t bring up memories of missed shots on a particular hole. Visualize the shot you plan to execute.
- Use your long-term memory. Remember the best shots and games you have played in the past. If you do think about a missed shot in the past, look at how you can correct it. This will change your attitude and how you look at the process of creating the shot.
- Take deep breaths to relax. By taking deep breaths you can relax your mind and body to access a positive state of thinking and physical performance more easily.
- Remember to smile. Smiling inside by remembering someone or something you love will bring your focus into your heart and out of the judgmental part of your brain.
- Reinforce your good shots. Anchor your good shots into your memory bank by congratulating yourself with a heartfelt, congratulatory warm feeling.
Purpose for playing golf
Golf is a game we play for fun and for the thrill of challenging ourselves to be the best we can be. When we know who we are and are comfortable with who we are, we have self-esteem, no matter how poorly we perform.
Remember golf is what you do, not who you are. If you are what you do, and then you don’t, YOU aren’t.
Affirm your self-worth by continuing to maintain understanding, acceptance, and love of your Self.
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